Making the world a better place.

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 ~ Integrity and karma lover. Equalist. Centrist.

~ Advocate for children and families. Expert on shared parenting and domestic violence. Former lobbyist.

~ Native of beautiful northern California.

~ Mother of four. Grandmother of two. Single.

~ One dog. Two cats.

Child Care and Respite Care

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Former day care provider (25 yrs) and foster mom (10 yrs). I co-founded the Respite Center for Women and Children, later called the Respite Center for Parent and Child. Single moms and dads enjoyed low cost child care, peer support, and family focused activities.

News article on Respite Center

Through a special program with county social services, and my thinking outside the box, we kept families together by providing respite care to parents at risk of losing their children to foster care. We also provided on-the- job child care training to male and female high school students. 

Shared and Equal Parenting

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As a licensed day care provider, some of my clients were equal parenting families. I saw children having natural and easy transitions between households, and it was very convenient for the adults. A parent assumed custody when they picked the child up from day care on the first evening of their parenting time, then a few days later the other parent assumed custody when they picked the child up on the first evening of their parenting time.  Drop offs happened at day care too, so they were like any other day.

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The 5 days/5 days/2 days/2 days schedule was preferred because both parents had custody the same number of weekends. I watched these children flourish, with their divorced parents equally involved in their lives, and getting along. They were thriving.

While leading the lobbying group California Women for Shared Parenting, I gave testimony for California Shared Parenting bill AB1307.


After N.O.W. lobbyists killed AB1307 and several other shared parenting bills across the country, I switched my moniker from Feminist4Fathers to the Queen of Equality.

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A member of Leading Women for Shared Parenting, my website Shared Parenting Works offers free parenting plans, research and resources.

Domestic Violence

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As Program Director for non-profit organization Stop Abusive and Violent Environments I lobbied Congress and California state lawmakers for all victims of domestic violence.

Take a look at the books Abused Men, the Hidden Side of Domestic Violence and When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault by friend and colleague Philip W. Cook.

I spoke on behalf of victims of false allegations to an advisory committee to the Office on Violence Against Women in Washington, DC. As Program Director of the Center for Prosecutor Integrity, I lobbied Congress and California lawmakers on false allegations and prosecutor misconduct.

I’m quoted in a college textbook on alternative viewpoints on domestic violence.

Child Support

If you blink you’ll miss it… I’m in Angelo Lobo’s documentary on child support, Support? System Down. Unfortunately, my part was cut from the final version, Romeo Misses a Payment.

John Murtari news article

When peaceful parents’ rights protester John Murtari of akidsright went 123 days without solid food or water in an act of non-cooperation during his incarceration for unjust child support charges, I provided public relations. John had a jailhouse interview on TV, and was the subject of several news articles.

Boys and Men

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Member of “Prominent Women Championing a White House Council on Boys and Men.” Seriously, if you care about boys, check out the information on Warren Farrell’s Coalition to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men website. Or take a look at his new book, The Boy Crisis. I also work with the National Coalition for Men.

Single Parents

With hard work, love, and dedication, and thanks to word-of-mouth, I grew an abandoned online group, making it the #1 Yahoo group for single parents, when Yahoo groups were a thing.



I am officially the first person to tweet that Jaycee Lee Dugard had been found. I wrote a very popular news series on her rescue for

My articles on shared parenting, domestic violence, parental alienation, family rights activism and local family life were published on in two columns: National Family Rights Politics /and/ San Francisco Bay Area Family Life, on my previous blog, and on other websites like ifeminists, Blogcritics, and Op-Ed News.


I believe that men and women are wonderfully different – that all people are different and all people are equal – all are deserving of equal respect and compassion. Take a look at friend and colleague Tim Goldich’s book Loving Men, Respecting Women.


northern california

You can find me hanging out with family, friends and pets; enjoying the sunshine and beauty of northern California; and loving the vibe of the San Francisco bay area.

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2 comments on “Bio
  1. Richard Cassalata M.Ed., ABD says:

    Great work! I just wanted to say thank you on behalf of our research team at the Men’s Rights Group of Arizona. Looking over your site and blog, your writing is very impressive and to the point. Thank you again for standing up for true equality.


  2. teriincali says:

    Thank you Rich!

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